11 years ago, I decided I’d learn how to write.
I had never felt like a writer.
And I didn’t think I was creative.
But I was working in marketing, and content marketing was becoming popular.
How could I not write?
So, I joined a course, studied blog posts, tried out my skills, and it turned out that even I could learn how to write …
Learning how to write changed my life
That’s no exaggeration.
After my first guest post was published on Copyblogger in April 2012, I plucked up the courage to quit my job.
I had enough of working for a boss. I had enough of office politics and 70-hour working weeks. I was burning out so I wanted to take a sabbatical and figure out what I wanted to do with my new-found freedom.
But that sabbatical never happened. I wrote a few more guest posts, and to my surprise, I picked up my first clients.
I hadn’t planned to become a writer. It hadn’t crossed my mind that people might ask me, a non-native English speaker, to write for them.
Yet, somehow, I was making my living writing.
I had a love-hate relationship with writing
I procrastinated, I battled my inner critic, and I felt frustrated with my writing process. I seemed to waste a lot of time, going back and forth, revising, editing, doubting myself.
But deadlines were always looming.
And after much frustration, eventually, I’d produce a decent piece of writing.
That’s what I liked—the feeling of having written.
I kept writing because I loved the feeling of having created something new. And perhaps deep down, I felt I could change my relationship with writing.
Could I learn to love writing?
Yes, I learned to love writing
When I think back of those early days, the transformation seems remarkable.
I don’t wrestle anymore with my inner critic. I procrastinate a lot less. I write on despite my doubts.
Writing has become so much more than a way to earn a living. Writing makes me feel alive.
Writing makes me feel like my best self. When I write, I can be at my most compassionate, my most generous. I feel connected to myself and to you—dear reader. I feel like I belong in this world.
My health hasn’t been great in the last few years. But no matter how overwhelmed I am or how distracted by pain, I can focus on writing. No matter how numb I can feel all day, I feel alive when I write. How is that possible?
I treasure these precious moments of writing.
How I went from hating to loving writing
If you have a love-hate relationship with writing, too, I’d like you to know it’s possible to change.
Writing can be hard and joyful.
How?
I’ve not discovered a quick fix. It’s been a slow process of learning to sit with my doubts, to focus on the creative process (or rather: on the one creative task in front of me), and to work more productively with my inner critic.
Instead of fighting my inner critic, I learned to listen to her. I discovered that my inner critic was telling me I was afraid. I was afraid that I was too boring to be a writer. I was afraid that I wasn’t good enough. I was afraid I was wasting my time trying to write something I didn’t know enough about. I was afraid of harsh comments, of people laughing at me.
My inner critic is trying to shield me from disappointment so I learned to be gentle with her.
I tell her it doesn’t matter when I write a bad first draft—it’s merely one step in the writing process. If she has suggestions, she can wait until I’m revising and editing.
I’ve learned to trust that even when the writing process is messy, each piece will turn out okay—even if it’s different from what I had in mind. Sometimes a piece almost writes itself, sometimes it takes much longer. That’s because there’s a real difference between writing something you know vs. writing to gain clarity. In the latter case, writing becomes a way to think and discover.
Writing about what you know is more straightforward but less interesting. Writing to gain clarity is more challenging but more interesting.
Yet, even when writing is hard, it can still be joyful. As I learned to be okay with the discomfort of uncertainty (as you never know how a piece will turn out), I found joy in each step of the writing process.
I found joy in formulating my thoughts. Joy in gaining clarity. Joy in expressing myself. Joy in creating something new.
Today, I feel lucky to write
I don’t write every day. Daily-ish is good enough for me.
But each day I write, I feel lucky.
Thanks to writing, I escaped corporate life. I freed myself. I learned to express myself better. I even learned to be me. I learned what matters to me.
Writing taught me to pay attention. First to words, and sentences, and rhythm. But then also to the world around me.
Writing makes me feel more grounded in life, more appreciative, more mindful.
So, if you ask me today why I write …
Then, yes, of course, sometimes I write because something needs to be written for my business.
But mostly, I write because it makes me feel alive.
I feel lucky to have discovered the joy of writing.
I feel lucky I’m writing.
Thank you for reading, my friend.
Recommended reading on finding joy in writing:
The two writing mindsets every writer must master
How to get into your writing zone
How to become a prolific writer: 6 stubborn myths
“ Writing about what you know is more straightforward but less interesting. Writing to gain clarity is more challenging but more interesting.”
This changed so much for me! I hadn’t thought of writing in those terms and it explains why sometimes things feel easy but other times not so much. Thanks for sharing. 🙂
I’m glad you found that useful, CF. Happy writing!
I just discovered you writing today Henneke and I will be sure to come back. Your posts are encouraging and just what I was looking for to nudge me into creating my own blog. Thank you for sharing your experience and insights.
I am glad you’re feeling encouraged, Royall. Thank you for your lovely comment.
Happy belated birthday dear Henneke! What a joy to read. After a very busy year, I’m still catching up with my inbox – but even if I don’t always comment, I never miss one of your posts.
Sending lots of love from London, and thank you for your written art.
Thank you so much, dear Virginia. I hope you’ve been busy in a good way!
It’s such an honour that you continue to read my work after so many years. Sending love back to you.
Hi Henneke,
I have been inspired by your writing so some time (more than a year I think) and I also started writing again for around a year.
I agree with you so much that writing brings clarity and connection. Clarity to our minds, hence, brings a strong bridge to our own minds as well.
What’s else, it is that I’m not a native speaker as well. Even worse, my ability to express was challenged when I faced some depression long time ago. But still, everytime I could make a piece of writing, be it in my mother tongue or English, it’s a creation.
What I’m trying to say is Happy Birthday and thank you for your beautiful words. Take care and keep up momentum.
Thank you for your birthday wishes and kind comment, Ngoc.
I’m sorry you’ve faced depression. It sounds you’ve found a way through?
Here’s to more joyful writing!
If I don’t write, I’m a real pain in the butt. My wife would agree. Probably my kids and dog, too. Enjoyed your post.
Sounds like the whole family benefits from your writing!
This spurs the fire to write in me. Thank you.
That’s great. Happy writing!
A late Happy Birthday Henneke, and thank you for such an interesting post on writing. I battle procrastination every day.
Your insight is very helpful.
Thank you for your birthday wishes, Barry. Procrastination can feel like a tough battle but with patience and self-compassion it’s possible to change, step by step.
The article upholds how you’ve fought to become a writer. This is no doubt inspiring for those who are trying for becoming a writer.
I wish you many happy future birthdays.
Thank so much, Tajammul. Happy writing!
I love this! Writing has helped me a lot too. I don’t think I’ll ever go back to the corporate world. I feel like I have a purpose when I write. I have satisfaction I couldn’t find anywhere else. I mostly write for clients now but when I do write my thoughts, my happy hormones are released. Thank you for sharing your love for and knowledge of writing. Happy birthday!
I will not go back to the corporate world either. Life is so much better and more fulfilling now.
Thank you for your lovely comment, Lux. Happy writing!
An interesting insight into your life, Henneke and no doubt many others among your readers have travelled down that road too.
Thanks for sharing and regards – Paul Herring Queensland Australia
Thank you, Paul. And yes, it seems this post resonated with many.
Happy birthday, Henneke! I wish you that there will always be a little joy in your every day despite the difficulties.
You are a tremendous joy for all of us, your devoted readers!
PS It would be very interesting to see a bad draft from Henneke… I don’t believe that it can be so 🙂
Oh yes, this post actually started with a pretty bad first draft. No much is left from that first draft if anything. It isn’t always like that. I can also produce decent first drafts. It depends very much what I am writing.
Thank you, Michael, for still reading me after so many years. I appreciate you.
Happy birthday, Henneke! You are a truly inspiration to me. Thank you for sharing with us your precious love, the writing.
All the best in the world and hope you will help us trust ourselves more that we can find our the true vocational throughout writing. 🌺
Thank you for your kind words, Luciana. Take it step by step, bit by bit and you’ll learn to trust your process and write from the heart. You’ll get there!
Thank you & God bless you! 🌺
Happy Birthday, Henneke, and thank you for the insightful reflections on writing
Thank you, Attilio.
Happy Birthday Henneke! I loved reading about your writing journey.
Thank you, Andrea!
Always enjoy reading your words.
Thank you, Melody.
Happy birthday friend! I hope you enjoy your day. I wanted to work for a company doing copywriting but I haven’t had any luck. Do you know of a place I can try?
Thank you, Zena. Sorry, I do not know if any job openings. Networking on LinkedIn is usually a good way to find copywriting jobs.
Happy Birthday, Henneke!
I loved reading about your journey as a writer. It sounds like it’s been such a big part of your personal journey, too.
As always, thank you for your honesty. You seem to bring your whole self into your writing and that’s very inspiring ✨
Yes, you’re right. Learning to write is a personal journey, too. I have applied skills I learned from writing also to other parts in my life, like mindfulness, and learning to be okay with uncertainty, and learning to let go.
Thank you for your lovely comment, Marta.
Happy birthday, Henneke!
Thanks for writing and inspiring us to write.
Thank you, David. How nice to see you again! I hope you’re keeping well.
Happy Birthday, Henneke!
Thank you, Ken
You are my inspiration,you always give me a reason to keep writing even when I feel things are not happening the way I want it.
Thank you, Pwabwa. Your comment put a big smile on my face. Happy writing!
Happy belated birthday, Henneke. I’ve been reading you for well over 4-yrs now. I must say, your contents has always been simplistic and straight to the point. More like a slippery slide. I always look forward to each of your post notifications hitting my mailbox. Thanks for staying consistent. Thanks for revealing your writing horror/dirty linen. And most importantly, thanks for letting us look over your shoulder to learn optimized concept on writing.
Etuken.
That’s lovely feedback. Thank you, Etuken. And thank you for reading me for such a long time!
This message was just what I needed to hear today. Thank you.
I wish you a very happy birthday … and a year ahead that is full of health and contentment!
Be well!
Thank you so much, Michele. I’m glad this resonated with you. Here’s to joyful writing!
Happy Birthday, Henneke!
Thanks for this joyful post and the reflection it activated in me. I especially loved and connected with …
“Writing makes me feel alive.”
“I find joy in formulating my thoughts, gaining clarity, expressing myself, creating something new.”
I added joy in …
unexpected surprises of awareness and insight,
simplifying a complicated idea,
trusting my soul writer self,
the silence of writing (a terrific antidote to being silenced as an elder woman)
Thank you, Day. Those are great additions. I like the idea of the silence of writing while writing also allows you to “speak” your mind. Here’s to more joyful writing!
Happy happy birthday Henneke. I enjoy reading your heart on paper. I stopped writing because it started to drain me and consume me. My husband felt neglected. My children didn’t complain- screen time nazi gone. I started a full time job that involves a lot of spreadsheets and I am happy creating these …for now. Still i get my joy from reading your beautifully eloquent pieces that make me smile despite the talent envy. Looking forward to more. Thinking of you as you battle with the discomfort- healing and light going your way.
When the time is right, you’ll pick up writing again. We can’t always do everything life. Thank you so much for your kind words, Sharon. I love how you put this: “I enjoy reading your heart on paper.”
A birthday wish for Henneke today.
She shows us all a happy way to write.
What used to be a never-ending fight
Has now become an easy game to play.
I used to struggle with my words all day
Till she came on the scene and lit the light.
A birthday wish for Henneke today.
She shows us all a happy way to write.
I cannot think of any more to say.
So I’ll turn off the lamp and say Good Night.
But just before I let my dreams take flight,
I’ve one more little word left, if I may:
A birthday wish for Henneke today.
What a lovely present. Thank you, Wally. ❤️
I loved this, Wally.
And happy birthday to you Ma. Wishing you good health and vigour…
Thank you so much, Osas.
Happy birthday, dear henneke!
Herzlichen Glückwunsch!
I really enjoy your blog and it´s marvellous pictures that are coming up reading it, always inspirational.
Keep on going in your personal new year!
Christine
Danke schön, Christine. I’m glad you’re enjoying my writing 🙂
Nog van harte gefeliciteerd! Wat een fijne traktatie, dit blog.
Dankjewel, Arlen. Wat een leuk idee om deze blog post als een traktatie te zien! Iedereen mag lekker een beetje meesmullen 🙂
Lovely as always!
Thank you, Keyuri!
Kedves Henneke!
Az első szavam az, hogy gratulálok! Gratulálok az írásaidhoz! Élmény olvasni őket! Gratulálok az életedhez amit újjá alkottál!
A második szavam: nagyon-nagyon boldog szüli napot kívánok!És kívánom még, hogy sok-sok évig élvezhessük az írásaidat!
Köszönöm, hogy értünk is dolgozol!
szívélyes üdvözlettel: Szalai József
Thank you so much! I’ve never received congratulations in so many languages before. I’m glad you enjoyed my post.
Happy Birthday, Henneke! Thanks for gracing my Email feed with your valuable newsletters.
With love & gratitude,
Deepak (a fellow Writer).
Thank you, Deepak. It’s always an honor that people allow my email into their inboxes!
Happy Birthday Henneke! I wish you prosperity and good health.
Thank you so much, Jose.
Happy Birthday, Henneke.
You’re a living inspiration for non-native writers like me. Yes, problems come and go in our life. But writing is such a craft that helps us escape- escape from all the distractions and disruptions.
Thanks for feeding us with your lively and passionate write-up.
Thank you so much, Sohel. It’s so nice when we can let distractions just be, connect with ourselves, and write. Best part of the day!
Happy birthday Henneke! You’re inspiring me from beginning I start my writing, so keep writing.
Thank you so much, Joky. I hope to keep writing 🙂
So inspiring. Thank you very much for sharing. It’s really a joy to read what you write.
Happy birthday. I think I can call you my friend.
Thank you so much, Tarcisio. I’m glad you enjoyed this.
First – Happy Birthday !!🎂 🎈🎊
I’m so glad you’re here!
I love your blog.
Stumbled upon it years ago and I resonated with your easy, authentic, conversational style.
The seeds of many stories and books live within me but the resistance I feel to sitting at my desk and giving voice and birth to them is just overwhelming at times. Feeling stuck brings on despair but I keep trying. 😌
I thank you for the encouragement.
Best wishes for many, many more birthdays and joyful writing sessions for you.
Please, CeeCee, keep trying. Don’t fight the resistance, just let it drift away, or see whether you can “park” it somewhere for a while. I once wrote this that you may find helpful: “That inner voice nagging “you’re not good enough” might tag along for the entire journey. Don’t ignore her (because you’ll ignite her anger). Don’t fight her (because you can’t win). Instead, accept her company and view her with compassionate eyes. You might find she’s concerned and kind rather than critical. Perhaps she wants to protect you—from rejection, from failure, from disappointment. Her intentions are good, but not productive nor empowering. So, don’t let her guide your journey. Keep the map in your own hands and move forward on your chosen path.”
Be kind to yourself. And thank you for your lovely comment.
Happy birthday, Henneke! 🥳
Although I know I am a bit late on congratulating you, but better late as never right?
I am not much of a writer myself, I do aspire to be one someday. In a way I do write work instructions for the company I currently work at though.
I did follow a course from Tamsin Henderson on Udemy about copywriting a while back. She has lots of wonderful insights, such as yourself hence why I’m following your blog, for your insights, your writing style and the new things I learn from reading your blogposts.
I know some other copywriters down here in my city. But they do more as just copywriting, like building websites for their clients and arrange their website hosting and whatever else.
I always ask them what they love doing the most? All of them tell me they prefer writing. I tell them do what you love most. Yes, but my clients want the entire package is what they tell me. I do tell them to outsource the things they don’t like doing.
What’s your take on this?
It’s never too late. I think I’m turning my birthday into a two-day party. Thank you for stopping by, Oege.
I feel incredibly lucky that I can do work I love. It doesn’t feel like work to me. But I know it’s not always that simple. So, yes, if it’s possible to outsource the work you like less, go for it.
Happy Birthday Henneke!
I hope this coming year brings you vibrant health, much happiness and continued success!
Like many others, I’m a longtime subscriber. And still every post brings me a little ripple of pleasure before I even open it. You always manage to provide little jewels of information for me to treasure and a new perspective that I need.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts and experiences.
Cecelia
Thank you, Cecelia, for your kind words. I much appreciate your stopping by.
Happy birthday, Hanneke!
Thank you for sharing and celebrating your writer’s path.
I wish you many years of feeling alive and well.
Thank you so much for your well wishes, Carlota. As long as I keep writing, I will keep feeling alive!
Happy birthday Henneke, and thanks for your very uplifting post. I am struggling with getting my writing out there, struggling with doubts about my topics or who is interested enough in what I write and struggling with marketing what I write. So reading your post will help me to stay on the path. Thank you, and hope your birthday was lovely.
Yes, please stay on your path. Step by step. When you focus on one step at a time, the path becomes less scary.
Happy Birthday, Henneke!
You write from the heart which allows your joy to shine through.
I wish you good health and healing vibrations for the year ahead.
I, thank you for the inspiration and joy that you share with your followers.
Best Wishes for a fabulous year ahead. 🎈🎉🎊🎂🥂
Linda
Thank you so much for your lovely comment and well wishes, Linda. ❤️
Happy Birthday, Henneke!
Thanks to you, I improve at the time my english and my writing!
It’s a very pleasure to read you.
You said you feel lucky to write, all of us we are also lucky because we can read you.
Awww, that’s lovely, Alexandra. Thank you.
Oh Henneke, I’d read anything you wrote. Happy birthday and take care, another good piece, thank you.
Thank you so much, Melinda. I appreciate that!
Happy Birthday Henneke!
Yes, I enjoy your articles and share them with my students! Thank you !
Thank you so much for sharing my work with your students, Vivian. I appreciate that.
It’s always a pleasure to enjoy your creative writing. Happy birthday, and thanks for sharing your deepest thoughts.
Sending a big hug from Argentina. I hope you get healthier every day and and your health becomes like a big oak tree.
Thank you, Fran. It’s so lovely to get birthday wishes from all over the world. It feels like a special party. Oh, and I love oak trees!
Henneke. Happy Birthday !! I hope your having a great day!
( Go ahead. Take a week. You have more than earned it!)
Thank you for your writing. You are easily the best teacher who uses writing as their primary teaching method that I have ever read. I always look forward to your posts.
Grace and peace
Curtis
Thank you so much, Curtis. I’m actually taking some time off after today and I’m so looking forward to it.
By the way, I’ve almost finished my next blog post already. It’ll be a “grammar lesson.” I think you might like it.
I’m grateful for your support and encouragement.
Happy birthday, Henneke (and fellow Virgo :)). Enjoyed reading your article. It so resonated with me and it’s indeed inspiring:)
Thank you, thank you, Sampada. Is your birthday coming up soon?
It was on the 24th 🙂
A belated happy birthday to you!
Happy Birthday, Henneke!
It’s your birthday but the gift is for us, the readers who receive your content. Thanks a lot for sharing your thoughts.
Best regards <3
Thank you for your kind words, Paolo. I feel grateful to everyone stopping by here today. It feels like a party with friends across the world. 🙂
Happy to know about your birthday! It is a wonderful day for
you to enjoy at its best. May I join you to celebrate your
happiest day, today? Happy happy birthday to you. The next
year may bring you the best of luck and many happy returns.
Thanks and good luck. Iqbal
Thank you for joining my party here, Iqbal. I appreciate your birthday wishes 🙂
Feliz cumpleaños,
Quiero empezar a recorrer el camino de escritor y su experiencia nos sirve a muchos de ejemplo.
Gracias .
Gracias, Mauricio!
Happy Birthday Henneke! I hope today becomes a jewel in your memories.
Of all the “content purveyors” I follow (or more accurately follow me) you are the only one who communicates sincerity and honesty and frankly, the only one I can say I trust for useful information. Thanks so much for your contributions. I am now putting on my “Loyal Follower” baseball cap. Thanks and enjoy your day!
That’s a lovely compliment, Jarius. I appreciate it. Thank you.
Happy Birthday Henneke! 🎉🎂🎉
Thank you for this great insight into your writing! It’s crazy how you seem to describe just how I feel about it too! Thank you for being such an inspiration !😊
Thank you so much, Laura. I used to think I was the only one who struggled with writing but as soon as I started writing about it, I discovered that so many of us are facing similar challenges. Keep going!
Sending Birthday Greetings from across the pond, Henneke! I am so thankful to have found you and your Enchanting Marketing website.
I second others on how lovely and encouraging your words are to me.
So genuinely expressed, you feel like a friend.
This article was another example of your gifts and passions that includes blessing others.
Thank you.
I do hope you might have time to post this one post to LinkedIn and point to your website.
There are so many readers there who would be blessed by your knowledge and encouragement.
Praying for comfort, courage, strength and healing for you, Henneke.
Thank you for your kind words, Michelle. I do feel like I’m among friends on my blog and I much appreciate your stopping by to join my party 🙂
One day when I have a little more time, I will return to LinkedIn!
Happy birthday and thanks for your inspiring posts!
Thank you, Maurizio!
I am too learning to love writing!
Also enjoying your insight
Thank you.
Thank you, Dannie. Learning to love writing can feel like a tough journey sometimes. But it’s worth it. Happy writing!
Happy Birthday!
I am grateful that I receive your beautiful messages that stimulate writing and creativity.
Thank you so much for your kind words, Chooki.
Firstly, may you celebrate your special day to the fullness of the joy that is deserved. I wish you the Happiest of Birthdays.
Oddly enough, Ms. Henneke, I can so empathize with you regarding your “need” to write. I, as well, spent years trying to avoid the process simply due to a lack of understanding. Following a life-changing event that left me physically unable to do much of anything, I rediscovered the craft of writing. Initially, the art of “word manipulation” proved more therapeutic than anything. Fast-forward 16 years and I’ve regained ninety percent of my physical functionality but, more importantly, have embraced a love of the scripted word that utterly transforms the world in which I’m often psychologically “trapped.”
As a weekly opinion columnist for the hometown (Baxley, GA) newspaper, my most recent novel, “Revised Edition, Family Ties: Thicker Than Blood” recently launched with the follow-up, “Family Ties II: Blood Covenant” slated for release during the spring/summer of 2023.
This is stated simply as a demonstration of the fact that I understand the “need” to write. In cases when I’ve not been able to write, conditions ranging from insomnia to headaches, nausea, and other physical conditions have manifested. To make a long story short, I do somewhat understand your situation as writing truly signifies life.
Thank you so much, B.G., for sharing your story. How wonderful that writing has helped you heal.
And yes, this rings true: “Writing signifies life.” That’s how it feels to me, too.
And, of course, congratulations on publishing your second book!
Happy birthday! Henneke
You are one of my favorite writers I subscribed. I’ve never missed out on your email and I’ve learned more from you.
Thank you so much.
I’m a non-native speaker too.
Thank you so much for your compliment, Anne. There are many of us here who are non-native speakers!
I wish you all the best, thank you for your continued pushing ahead- also with newsletters.
These are times of healing, turning our ways as humans from power playing, fear and neediness to love and creativity.
I get it you are on the path already.
I wish you all the healing you can master, regaining your good heath.
With love
Lene
Thank you for your kind wishes, Lene. I like this: From fear and neediness to love and creativity.
Happy birthday Henneke. I am glad to share my birthday month with you.
Reading your love hate relationship with writing made me smile. And let me assure you, even those who love writing have to struggle with these things daily. I know because I have loved writing since childhood. But still I often struggle to write interesting things!
Keep writing,
Shweta.
Thanks so much for joining my party here, today. And a belated happy birthday to you, too, Shweta. As there’s only one day left in August after today, I assume you’ve celebrated yours earlier already.
What I discovered: If you follow your curiosity, then you’ll find many interesting things to write about.
Happy Birthday Henneke
I read your article on writing. I am retired. Retired that’s another way for me to live I started to be a copywriter about 5 years ago. I drifted away by writing a novel or parts of a novel. I listened to you because you seemed to be talking-to me. I wrote 3 novels and then found out that editing and marketing were harder than writing. I changed venue from YA suspense to romance. It started on a whim while sitting in a chair.
However writing became a need to accomplish daily. It started at 500 words per siting then it reached 2000 word per sitting and there are times that is not enough.
I have this desire to produce. It’s an addiction that I can’t get rid off, but I don’t try. I like writing
If you’re writing so much, then I don’t think you’re really retired. You’ve just started a new career.
And yes, I’m with you, editing is more work than writing, and marketing is even more work.
Happy writing, Bob!
Lovely post Henneke. I was sorry to hear that you’ve been wrestling with ill health for some time. It is really hard to continue writing when your brain feels all fogged up by illness or from the drugs that are supposed to make you better. And you’ve made it clear that it’s all about persistence and mindset. Both are so important in achieving the results we aim for. Thank you for a great post. Rosemary
Thank you for your kind comment, Rosemary. Yes, the brain fog can be worse than pain but somehow, most days there’s a way forward and I’m slowly getting better, with ups and downs. Yes, persistence, but in a gentle way. Learning to be kinder to myself has made a big difference.
Happy birthday Henneke. You’ve been a great inspiration to me. I always thought that writing was only for talented people. After I read writer blog, include what you wrote, I realized that ordinary people can also learn to be writers.
Yes, I used to think the same. I didn’t think I had talent so writing wasn’t for me. So glad that all of us are making this journey and finding the joy of writing. Much appreciate your stopping by, Firdaos. Happy writing!
Dear Henneke,
Whenever I find your mail, I jump with joy!
I am bound to open and relish the writing taste.
It’s simple.
It’s beautiful.
It’s refreshing.
It’s candid. I love your artistic plain English.
I hear the sweet murmuring sound of enchanting writing!
You are my invisible mentor.
I learn from your magical words daily and share them with other curious writers.
Today’s masterpiece took only 7 minutes to finish.
But.
The rhythm?
I still enjoy the power of your magical words!
Your comeback writing journey inspired me to explore my inner writing power.
I feel that I can also open the ever-green beauty of writing.
Words have power.
Words have emotion.
Words can make or break it.
Your every piece of content is irresistible.
The only problem.
They are abundant.
Sometimes I feel like a lost child.
Who doesn’t know which delicious dish is the best?
Lol!
Have more meaningful years with countless peace and happiness, dear honorable mentor.
Awww, so many lovely words. You’re making me blush, Ahmed 😊
Thanks for your emails, they are always a breath of fresh air. I hope you have a very happy birthday!
Thanks so much, Juan.
Love this heartfelt and encouraging post! I made my living as a marketing writer (now retired) and I so much appreciate how you are able to explain much of the writing process. Many think that writing comes naturally to those who do it well. I’ve found it is always a learning process. Happy Birthday to you!
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Thanks so much for your kind words, Lucie.
And it’s true: Writing is always a learning process, and it remains a learning process. No matter how long I’ve been writing, I still find new obstacles on my way. Every piece of writing is different. But I’ve learned that somehow a solution always turns up so I don’t need to get frustrated, just keep going and let the process do its work.
Happy Birthday!
You know Henneke, I feel the same you do! Like you, English is my second language and even though I command it pretty good, there’s always that doubt of whether I’m saying it right or not. The idiomatic expressions, the slang, all those things bother me, but reading your stories and your ideas have helped a lot. I’m still procrastinating, I haven’t written on my blog yet, but every time I read your stories, like this one, I realize that at some point, I’ll be like you, hopefully! I need to hurry, I’m old and might not have all the time in the world!
I think us, non-native speakers, are too worried about mistakes or half-mistakes or sounding slightly different. It matters less than we think. I know I often mix British and American English because I don’t always know the difference, and sometimes a Dutch turn of phrase sneaks in. And I ordinary typos sneak in, too (usually a kind reader points one out). But native speakers don’t always write perfect English either. If it helps, you can ask someone to check your English. I’ve learned a lot from people correcting my writing.
Oh, I love this! Happy Birthday to an inspirational and wonderful writer. You’ve helped so many of us realize our dreams.
Awww. Thank you so much for your kind words, Kristen.
HAPPY BIRTHDAY KID !
Thank you, Tom. 🙂
Happy birthday Henneke,
Your work brings me joy and adds to my knowledge.
Thanks for all you do!
Thanks so much, Iyabo. That’s lovely feedback.
I LOVED this!
Thank you for writing it and Happy Birthday!
Thanks so much, Emma. ❤
I feel like you’ve given me a gift.. and it’s not my birthday! Thank you. That was so uplifting. And happy birthday to you!
What a lovely comment. Thank you, Wendy.
happy birthday!
Thabk you!
Happy Birthday Henneke!
I love getting your inspirational emails. I am a fairly new songwriter and feel your suggestions will be helpful to me. I am retired from working for others now, and look forward to the inspiration I continue to get from you.
Have a fabulous day and year!
Best wishes…Sandy
Oh, wow. Songwriting. Now, that’s exciting!
Happy-B Day Henneke 🎂
Joyeux anniversaire 🎉
Merci à toi, mon ami, d’avoir écrit.
Natacha
Merci beaucoup, Natacha 🥳
Happy Birthday, Henneke!
I agree with the others — your birthday post was beautiful and especially inspiring to read.
Have a great day!
Thank so much, Byron.
Happy Birthday to Henneke. Continue soaring higher.
Above all age gracefully ….
Thank you, Kehinde. Only 53 years young. 😊
Wow happy birthday ma’ma! I never knew you are an non-native English speaker…
It’s true. My native language is Dutch and I only started learning English when I was 12, and I wasn’t very good at it!
That’s so encouraging! Because my first language isn’t English neither and I’m trying to use it well.😄
Happy Birthday! Celebrate with joy!
Thank you, Wanda.
You’ve been a great help and inspiration to me, Henneke and I can’t thank you enough for your advice and suggestions. Have a great Birthday!
Thank you, Don. That’s great feedback.
Happy Birthday Henneke.
Hope you are enjoying a lovely day with a celebratory glass of wine in hand.
This blog post moved me and as a long time fan of your brand of philosophy I can only raise a glass to you and your writing.
Have a wonderful day.
Thank you so much, Nath. I am raising a glass to you, too. I feel lucky to have readers like you. 🥂
Happy Birthday 🎂🎊🎉🎁🎈
I’m glad you taught yourself to write and write well! I enjoy your newsletters and I for one, think you have the gift!
I have taken a break from it to get ready for our new adventure, besides, most of my office is packed up, so except for blogging, I’ve done nothing but one paying job.
I’m hoping once we are on the road, life will open up and show me a new writing path, maybe a travel blog/vlog to share in our RV life. We will see. I’d also like to finish my transcriptionist course, yet not sure I’ll have time. We will be traveling with our two Shorkies, which I’m sure will prove challenging.
Good luck to you now go celebrate 🎉
Oh, wow, that sounds like a big, new adventure! Being on the road will surely give a new perspective on life and on writing. Wishing you safe and joyful traveling!
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Thank you, thank you, Pierrette. I thought I heard someone singing. It was you! 🥳🎉
Happy, Happy Birthday. You are a gift! 💝
Thank you, KC 🥳
Henneke, happy birthday, wish you all happiness in the world!
You really inspire me. I am Indonesian and my English is not good. I want to learn copywriting and am happy to find your blog.
I’ve read a lot of your articles, and your book, and you’ve managed to explain what I find difficult to understand about copywriting from other writers in easy language. And practical, can be directly put into practice.
I have also been sick for almost 10 years, unable to carry out normal activities. And like you, writing makes me feel alive, useful, and make me at peace.
That’s such lovely feedback, Purwanto. And it makes me happy to read that writing makes you feel alive, too. Sending my best wishes for your health.
Happy Birthday Henneke!
Your sparkling blog post are what’s needed for us infant 👶 writers taking our first baby steps towards a writing careers. Thanks from me and amongst many of your followers
Thank you for your lovely comment, Louie. Happy writing!
Happy Anniversary of the day you were birthed!
And thank you for the gifts you share with us!
Thank you so much, Phil. I appreciate you.
Hey Henneke,
First of all, Happy Birthday!
I was struggling to write a web page and checked email. And got your mail popped up.
I can’t be grateful enough to you for posting this. It’s something, I was in dire need of.
I also have a love-hate relationship with writing. Sometimes, the struggle makes me quit writing and start learning something else. But, it’s just impossible to quit writing especially nowadays.
Even if sometimes I hate the process and my inner critic saying the same thing as you, still sometimes I feel lucky and proud to start learning to write two years back. Not gained so much yet. But yeah, writing is my way of expression.
Needless to say, your blog has helped me enormously to learn the craft. I’m still learning. But hope it will be easier with time.
Can you suggest me something about guest blogging? I never got published in any blog. And I feel afraid to reach out to big blogs like copyblogger, smart blogger, etc. To a beginner non-native writer, what would you suggest? Is there any chance for me?
Have a happy and cheerful birthday!
You don’t need to start with the biggest blogs. Perhaps you already know bloggers who publish guest posts? Having a relationship first (through social media or commenting) can make it a lot easier to pitch and get your post accepted. Take it step by step, and don’t take it personally when a post gets rejected. It happens to all of us!
Happy birthday to Henneke
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No doubt, every writer face these issue in their prior time.
I’m amateur in writing 😊 although I want to make my career in writing. And struggling these days. I know it’s hard but I will never gave up. I wake up at 5:00 Am in morning and start to read at least 45 minutes and then I stick this habit to writing with maximum speed whatever comes in my mind.
Daily work = *
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After many year it will be our stocks.
We all start as amateurs! No one is born a writer, we all have to learn, we all start by emulating our writing heroes.
Getting up so early sounds impressive to me. I am not an early bird 🙂
Happy Birthday and thanks for the continued inspiration!
Thank you, Marji
Thank you for sharing! Inspiring words. Happy birthday!!
Thank you, Kellan
Happy birthday, Henneke! Writing makes me feel like my best self is the phrase that rang out to me. You are reinforcing your highest potential when you feel that way. Thank you for being fully YOU! I CELEBRATE you. Thank you for writing. I am inspired by you.
Yes, so true: “Writing makes me feel like my best self is the phrase that rang out to me. You are reinforcing your highest potential when you feel that way.” Thank you!
Happy Birthday! And many happy returns!
Loved this post. Writing is always a joy, even when it’s hard. In fact, sometimes that’s when it’s the most fun.
And I always get great ideas from your posts.
When writing is hardest, it’s probably the most rewarding when it’s done as I’ve learned something. I appreciate all your encouragement, Wally.
Happy birthday Henneke, it is always a joy seeing and getting the chance to read your newsletters and posts. You’re one number one business writer and writing expert I readily recommend to other writers. Hope your health gets better (I could relate with the living in pain part), and that you continue to find joy in every word you pen down. Cheers
Thank you so much for your kind words, Deborah. I much appreciate your recommending me to other writers. 🙏
Happy Birthday, Henneke!!! You are always inspiring me. And now I can appreciate a lot your struggle to writing, because it is my one too. And, finally, I am writing the book that I need to write.
Every day (except the weekend) the first thing for me is sitting at my table, in my small kitchen in the country where they produce the Italian Valpolicella wine, loved by Hemingway 🙂
Today, that is your birthday, you have given me a great gift: the importance to listen to our inner critic and to be in peace with it. Because our inner critic can be our teacher and out next listener.
Years ago, I attended a course (in Rome) about how to write a script for cinema. Our teacher spent the first day explaining us the importance to write.
So I asked him: “There are a lot of bad writer out of this room. Why people and the world do need my bad novel or my bad script?”.
He was a typical man from South Italy (Naples). He smiled and answered: “You don’t know, Maurizio, if overthere there is just one person who is waiting your story. And need it”.
You, Henneke, teaches us how to writer our story better. In the right way: listening to our soul and being in peace with our inner critic. Thanks a lot!!! Happy birthday.
That’s a wise teacher. If our story helps just one person, then it has made a difference in the world. And that’s forgetting the impact it could have in a writer to share there story.
I am glad that you’re writing the book you want to write. I know you’re very diligent, so the book will be birthed. Happy writing, Maurizio.
Happy Birthday! I love your writing style and frequently have my high school students read your blogs. And then I’ll ask them to try writing something the Henneke way. Although I’m sure I’m not pronouncing your name right! 😄
Awww, that’s lovely. You’re making me blush. The first “e” in my name is like the first “e” in elephant. The second and third “e” are like the second “e” in elephant. But it doesn’t matter how you pronounce it. I’m honored 🙂
Happy Birthday Henneke!
You are an absolute inspiration! Thank you for being you!
Kind regards,
Soul
Thank you so much for your lovely message, Soul. I appreciate it.
Hi Henneke,
Wish you a very happy birthday 🎉🎂.
I didn’t know that you are a non-native English speaker. How did you overcome that obstacle?
Also, do you optimize your articles for search engines (SEO)?
I would love to know the process.
Best,
Avadhut
I learned a lot from native speakers who corrected my work. I’m grateful for all their lessons!
Also, I read almost exclusively in English (so much so that it’s hard to write in Dutch, my native language, these days.)
I don’t optimize my articles much. I do usually have a keyword in mind but I write what I think is helpful to my readers. I wrote more about my SEO perspective here: https://www.enchantingmarketing.com/seo-writing/
Parabéns, Henneke!
Felicidades e muitos anos de vida.
Deus te abençoe!
Thank you so much, Vania.
Happy Birthday Henneke, thank you for taking this journey to writing. I can see it’s been a blessing to you, but it’s also been a blessing to many, including me. I frequently come to your blog, because it’s all so well written and educational. I know I’ll leave with something valuable for my writing. I absolutely loved your writing course and have almost finished my testimonial. I want to sing from the treetops that anyone who wants to start writing should definitely take it. I’ll let you know when my first post goes live (just sorting out some bloggy-type things; formatting, fonts, template etc). Wishing you many more years of joy ahead.
Thank you so much, Sonna. That’s such lovely feedback.
More importantly … I’m delighted that you’ve written your first post, and are almost ready to go live. Yay!
Here’s to your success and much writing joy!
Happy birthday, Henneke! I am so happy you found your happy place. I definitely feel the corporate life would have led to an early death. I was a mess before taking the leap to writing for a living. What I love most about your writing, Henneke, is its authenticity. It’s so you. Even though I don’t know you personally, your writing invites each of us to know who you are and that’s special. Thank you for sharing your journey. I wish you good health and much happiness.
Awww, that’s such a lovely comment, Cathy. And yes, my writing is me. I don’t know exactly how it works but writing allows me to connect to my best self.
It feels like you’ve reading me for a long time, too, Cathy. I so appreciate that. It means a lot to me. ❤️
I have been reading you a long time. Wish I found you sooner. I think I’ve told you before, I want to be you when I grow up. 😉
But do we want to grow up? 😉
😀 Definitely not.
Happy birthday, my fellow Virgo! Say, I’m curious about how horoscopes get written now…
Well wishes to you. Thank you for writing AND teaching.
And happy birthday to you, Tamira, for when it comes around!
Firstly, Happy Birthday Henneke!
Secondly, this is a great piece of writing – was it difficult to put together or did it write itself 🙂 It mirrors so much of how I feel about writing since I rediscovered it two years ago and has helped to bring me back into the world, also to do with health struggles, some thankfully resolved but others ongoing. Writing takes me away from all of that and transports me to different worlds, some beautiful, some not so beautiful, but all with the chance of a great feeling of pride when a written piece flows well and may help others.
Thirdly, unlike you, I am not writing for a living but would like to, at least on a part-time basis initially. I signed up for a copywriting course but think I would have been more suited to a content writing course, and given that the majority of my working background is in business education and research, one of your courses may be what I need to kickstart some paid writing opportunities – what do you think?
For she’s a jolly good fellow, and so say all of us – hip hip hooray!
Thank you, James. This one didn’t write itself as I was still figuring out what I wanted to write. So, it took me a long time with a few long breaks to let it percolate.
If you want to use your experience in business education as a jumping off point to get into writing, then blog writing would be easier than copywriting. Writing blog posts (or articles or tutorials) is also about educating your readers.
Happy birthday, Henneke! Beautiful post as always, and it resonates. Part of my business is to write articles for clients, and I love interviewing people and hearing their stories. But I still find writing articles hard, so I make it easier by breaking the process into small manageable steps (including creating a terrible first draft!). The results feel like magic and make me happy. Thank you for the writing you do. You connect with people and connect people to themselves.
Thank you, Rachel. Breaking the process up makes a big difference for me, too, and always focusing on the task in front of me. It does indeed feel like magic sometimes.
Great email, thank you!
And a very happy birthday!
Thank you, Andrew. And happy writing!
Great read as always, Henneke!
Sadly, everyone is looking for shortcuts these days. They forgot that it takes time.
Best regards
Yes, so true. Things take time, but when done well the impact grows and grows.
Happy birthday, Henneke! 🌻
And I feel incredibly lucky to have found your blog and courses that helped hone my writing skills. Your passion is contagious and your writing always makes the world a better place than before.
That’s such a lovely comment. Thank you, Susanna. And the sunflower is one of my faves 🌻
Happy Birthday, Henneke!
Thanks for sharing your writing process with us. I appreciate what you write a lot.
Have a great day!
Thank you so much, Diana.
Happy birthday, Henneke! You’ve been an evergreen source of motivation and writing wisdom to me. May God grant you many more years!
Thank you so much, Wycliffe.
Happy Birthday to someone special! Thanks for sharing your talents! Here’s to your health and continued happiness!
Thank you so much, Gayle!
Beautifully written as always my friend 🙂
Thank you, Paul. I appreciate all your support 🙂
Hi Henneke,
Gentle heart!
Many happy returns of the day!
On your birthday, I would like to share with you a meditation practice I discovered called TWIM = Tranquil Wisdom Insight Meditation taught by an American monk called Bhante Vimalaramsi and now by another American teacher called Delson Armstrong.
It’s a very gentle practice, much like your writing process and it relies on relaxing and smiling and radiating goodwill (metta) to yourself and others.
You can find articles and books on TWIM at dhamma.org and videos on YouTube.
Happy birthday again and thanks for lighting up our world with your gentle and radiant heart. You are totally total!
Many smiles and much metta.
Thanks so much for your suggestion, Rohi. I will check it out!
I appreciate your kind comment and that you’ve been reading my blog for so many years 🙂
Hi Henneke, Happy Birthday!!!
Thank you for sharing your story, I had no idea that you did not like to write. That’s amazing how you turned it around. I used to love creative writing in high school and then went into marketing years later. I’ve struggled from time to time with writing. I seem to go in phases. Your story has been inspiring, thank you! Enjoy your special day.
At school, Dutch and English were my worst subjects. (My native language is Dutch.) I hated writing essays!
Congratulations because your Birthday and your passion of writing.
My mother tongue is Spanish and it is for me a reason of admiration to read articles of passionate writers
Pasión is the essential element that makes that magic happens, that magic that I am working on , by looking new ways of combining inspiration, grammar, ideas, an a lot of patience.
Well, I hope you all the best and for sure you will get it in the way you write and adding life to your days and no days to your life.
Yes, it’s the Pasión (or enthusiasm or curiosity) that makes the magic happen. It shines through in your writing. Thank you for your lovely comment, Carlos.
Happy and Blissful Birthday to you ma’am. Been following you since 2018 – passively sometimes but I’ve been here. Stumbled on you once when I was searching blogging for beginners and fell in love. I put into practice some of your tips then and people complimented it. I didn’t start the blog eventually. I’m looking at going into copywriting but I haven’t quite taken any classes to sharpen my skill, I’d like to take a course from you when I get the finances and until then, I’m grateful for the gift of you. Thank you for all you’ve given for free. Happy Birthday again ma.
Thank you, Cynthia, for your lovely comment but also for reading my work for 4 years and counting. If you want to write, you’ll find your way 🙂
Happy, Happy Birthday Henneke – it’s a real pleasure to have you visit my inbox. xx
Thank you, Caroline. It humbles me that I’m welcome in your inbox after so many years! xx
Writing is a mixture of hot, cold, and lukewarm moments all happening at the same time.
Thanks for sharing how writing makes you feel.
I share those feelings.
Yes, that’s a good way to put it. The cold makes me most uncomfortable, so for me it’s a matter of learning to be okay with the cold 🙂
“My health hasn’t been great in the last few years. But no matter how overwhelmed I am or how distracted by pain, I can focus on writing. No matter how numb I can feel all day, I feel alive when I write. How is that possible? I treasure these precious moments of writing.”
Your writing style has been inspiring and I look forward to a deeper dive with your work. Thank you for the inspiration!
Thank you for your lovely compliment, David. I hope you’ll enjoy browsing my blog 🙂
Thank you for sharing your honest, heart felt journey into the joy of writing. I am still on the journey; and at a pivotal point I think , although I’m not quite sure what it pivots on, nothing tangible, but I can feel it. Just as you, I write for different purposes but I know that it is vital for the development of my self and how I evolve as a human being … your post reminded me of that; and why writing matters to me. … so …thank you
It’ll come. Be patient and follow your curiosity, and your path will show. That’s how it worked for me.
Yay, and hallelujah, and well done!
Of course you weren’t too boring to be a writer. No one ever is! As long as they are honest and don’t just put on a PC, socially all-acceptable writing persona.
I truly believe that.
And writing is at once language and philosophy and creativity and craftsmanship. Of course you love it!
You forget to mention one thing. Through all your personal hardships you have been able to steadily write uplifting posts. That is the greatest miracle, if you ask me.
Your blogs have been a part of my life for all those years.
Happy birthday!
Yes, of course, you’re right. No one is too boring to be a writer. I just didn’t know that, and it took me a long time to figure that out and that it was okay to write about my life, too.
I think I write to lift myself up, too. It helps me survive.
I much much much appreciate all your encouragement through the years. Thank you, Kitty.
Thanks for this post, very inspiring. And happy birthday!
Thank you, Francesca.
Happy Birthday, Henneke,
Have a great day. This reminded me to send you a book recommendation – Have you read Small Island by Andrea Levy, you might have it’s fairly old. I loved it.
Ah, yes, I am always up for good book recommendations! I read the Small Island but it was years and years ago. Well before I got into writing so it might be a good one to re-read! One of my faves this year has been The Perfect Golden Circle by Benjamin Myers.
Happy Birthday! I’m so pleased writing brings you joy because your work is amazing.
Thank you, Sue. I hope the joy shines through in my writing 🙂
Quote from Mark Twain:
“The two most important days in your life are:
the day you are born
and
the day you find out why.”
Thank you for sharing both with us. Happy birthday(s)!
That’s lovely! Thank you, Kathleen.